by BB Curtis

I have a little something for Amber Heard.  This is the progress of having the shit smashed out of you.  The first photo is about two hours after being smacked around and in a hospital ER, which is where you go when that happens.  The second photo is a couple of days later and for a few weeks as it continues to bleed internally and the swelling has decreased only enough for the individual to be able to partially open her eye.  Notice the broken blood vessels in the eye as well while the bleeding continues.  The third one, taken about five months after the incident, is the leftover damage that can last for months to years. Notice the remainder of tissue damage on the lower lid right below the iris of the eye, on the edge of the upper lid above and to the right of the iris where it is still darker than the other skin, and in the outer corner where there’s discoloration, both light and dark, partially because of the underlying tissue damage where it was stressed from the swelling. 

I’m going to go out on a limb and say that those of us who have really been beaten up or are close to someone who has been were among the first to decide that Ms. Heard was lying.  Why?  We’ve seen this in our own mirrors and had to go out in public looking like this.  We’ve gone shopping in stores where people know us as regular customers.  We’ve gone to work after dropping off our children at daycare where people know us.  Some of us were lucky enough to have a driver’s license ready to expire and have had to carry around that picture in our wallets for a few years until the next time we were up for renewal.  We’ve had to talk to friends and neighbors with this mess being all they could see while trying to avoid having a conversation about it since most people don’t want to know, but they’ll talk about you behind your back anyway.  Most of us have had a close friend who said that she/he HAD to have photographic documentation in case we changed our minds and decided to report the incident to the police, all the while not paying attention to the reason for us not wanting to do that – the threat of retribution from the batterer that would be far worse than what we already have.  There are some other signs and signals that I’m not going to detail on the off chance that someone else who wants to try this shit reads this, and I end up being responsible for telling the bitch how to give a more convincing performance and win her set up case more easily. 

At first, I had no intention of writing this because I didn’t want to press the point further since it had been so high profile and discussed to death.  I didn’t want to relive it myself.  However, now that Ms. Heard wants to push her bullshit case again, I felt honor-bound to post this for some who might not be as aware of what damage a batterer does when repeatedly hitting someone as was described by Ms. Heard when on the stand and under oath.  Since her “evidence” is so watered down (because there really isn’t any), I thought it would be a good thing for someone who has never seen what a good beating looks like to have a solid frame of reference.

By the way, Ms. Heard, those of us who have really been through this don’t want you to tell your story of supposed physical abuse.  If someone is going to “speak for us” we want it to be real, with actual evidence, and with true conviction.  Your bullshit makes a mockery of our pain.

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